The Law of Allure in Parenting - Activity Follows Absorption

 
The additional day, if I was alive in the kitchen, my babe was actual appropriately arena with one of my son`s toy s nearby. My 5 year-old son came into the room, noticed "his" toy over there, and affective it absolutely aggressively from his 2 year-old sister. He captivated it top out of her ability while she yelled for it back, cogent her she couldn`t accept it because it was his.

In that moment, I could accept told my son that he was abrupt for demography a toy abroad from his sister, and accepted he accord it back. Or I could accept scolded him for avaricious it from her, I could accept insisted he accord it aback to her and ask accurately for it aback in a "do over" move. Or I could accept abutting in and just affective the toy from him and accustomed it aback to her and told him she could play with it even if it was his toy . There are several things I could accept done or said forth these lines, all of which would accept perpetuated a "fighting" mood.

In this moment however, I happened to bethink that "energy follows attention" and "what we focus on is what we get added of." I chose in that moment to see my son as a sharing, caring, giving boy. I absitively to evidently augment my son`s virtues, to allotment my eyes of him with my words, to actively put activity into creating what I capital to see. So I angry to my babe and said, "Don`t anguish love. Your brother is a candied administration boy, and he lets you play with his toy s sometimes, and he will afresh absolutely soon. He will accord you aback the toy and let you play with it for awhile because he is a candied admiring big brother who cares about you actual much." I watched my son attempt for a moment to adhere on to that toy . But he couldn`t. It was as if he couldn`t advice but bell with the accuracy of my words and band up with them central himself. He did afterwards all, absolutely adulation her, and he absolutely did adore giving to her. Aural seconds, I watched his duke inch down appear his sister`s, and if he proudly gave his toy to her, he looked up and me and smiled.

It was one of those times area what we aggregate calm was adored above words. We all accomplished a bit of heaven. No yelling. No tears. No ability struggles. Just love, truth, candied administration and the bewitched ability of law of allure in action. So simple. So easy. So beautiful.

 

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